My vision of BDSM
As Comtesse Lily DeVaux, I offer an experience that is as tailored as it is transformative. My world is open to the curious novice to the devoted submissive. Whether you are stepping into BDSM for the very first time or arriving with years of service behind you, my approach is intentional and uniquely designed to draw out the deepest parts of who you are.
For those embarking on their first experience, I have created a meticulous and thoughtful questionnaire as a tool that allows me to craft your introduction to this realm with absolute care for your physical, psychological, and emotional well being. You will also find, on my website, a comprehensive and complete BDSM glossary curated to help you navigate this exhilarating new world with confidence and clarity.
For those already experienced in service, your history is welcomed but will be set aside. When you cross into my world, you enter a new lineage of training, a space shaped exclusively by my standards and my methods. To serve me is to release old conditioning and surrender to the unique path I create for those I choose to guide.
To me, BDSM is far more than a practice; it is a way of living without taboo, judgment, or shame, a conscious rebellion against the suffocating conditioning of a normative society. In my world, your shadows are not to remain hidden; they are welcomed, encouraged, explored, and celebrated.
What a privilege it is to devote yourself to someone who not only commands you, but also changes you deeply. Under my guidance, you will evolve; and as you do, your service to me will deepen, becoming more profound, more authentic, and more polished with time.
Consent & Safety
I design and conduct scenes exclusively for consenting individuals within an environment that prioritizes safety for myself and for those who serve me on physical, psychological, emotional, mental, and spiritual levels. Even in the circumstance of the most intense and immersive scene, my intention is never to cause real and long-term harm to you or to anyone connected to you, and I expect the same uncompromising standard from you.
If at any point I determine that an individual is unable to provide clear, enthusiastic, and freely given consent, I will immediately stop all activities. The scene will only resume once I am fully assured that the individual is again capable of providing informed and enthusiastic consent.
Furthermore, if I judge that a requested experience could place you, myself, or any witnesses at risk in any form, I reserve the absolute right to refuse or adapt such a request at my sole discretion.
All scenes will be governed by clearly established safewords and pain or intensity scales (such as green, yellow, red or a 1-to-10 rating system). These will be thoroughly discussed and agreed upon via email prior to confirming our rendezvous, ensuring that the experience I create remains both safe and transformative.
Preparation, Aftercare & Integration
To say that I place importance on these three aspects would be an understatement they are the very pillars of my practice. Not only do they shape an experience you will crave to repeat, they are also indispensable for your safety on a physical, psychological, and spiritual level. Anyone who dares to present them as unnecessary is, in my eyes, a walking danger. Within Service Domination, where cathartic release is explored, these elements form the foundation of your journey, and I do not compromise on them. That said, I may also choose to dedicate a portion of our time to aftercare, particularly following an especially intense FemDom scene, ending the session 10 to 15 minutes early to ensure you are properly cared for before I release you back into the world.
Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, Trauma-Informed Kink & Judgement-Free Zone
Within my world, every session is founded on Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), a principle that demands not only consent, but also consciousness. You are expected to understand and accept that all forms of kink carry inherent risks, physical, emotional, psychological, and energetic. By choosing to serve me, you accept responsibility for your own boundaries and self-awareness, and you acknowledge that each act of surrender is a choice made in full consciousness.
I, in turn, operate with a trauma-informed approach, which means I recognize that everyone arrives with their own history, their own thresholds, and their own unseen wounds. My intention is not to reopen old pain but to engage it with care, respect, and mastery. Every scene is designed to ensure that the intensity we explore becomes a source of transformation, not retraumatization. I do not play recklessly, nor do I indulge fantasies that endanger psychological or emotional stability.
In my space, you will never be shamed for your desires, curiosities, or confessions. This is a judgement-free zone, where your shadows are not a weakness but a sacred act of trust. You may bring your truth to me without fear of ridicule or moral scrutiny. However, honesty is non-negotiable, hidden agendas have no place in my presence.
Everything that occurs between us remains strictly confidential. Your disclosures, fantasies, and experiences are protected by my discretion. The sanctity of this exchange depends on mutual respect and trust, what you reveal stays within the boundaries of our container and scenes.
My role is to guide, not to harm; to awaken, not to wound. I uphold the principle that all power exchanged must be freely, knowingly, and enthusiastically given and that it can be withdrawn at any moment.